10 Ways To Achieve Your Goals

Goal setting is easy. Achieving your goals is the challenge. Below are 10
techniques you can use to help you achieve your goals. Practice these goal setting techniques everyday and you just might be surprised how easy it becomes to accomplish your goals.

1. Dream great dreams and make them come true.Studies show that people who visualize "aggressively" are more successful at
achieving their goals. Visualize the end-result of your dream. What does it look like?
How will you feel when you get what you want? What color, size, shape, etc., it is?
You must be able to mentally visualize your goal as clear and concise as possible
then it is possible to achieve it. Keep it on your mind every day. In time your sub-
conscious will take over.

2. Believe that you can do it.

You must believe in yourself. If you do not then read positive thinking books. Take a
class at your community college that will enhance your skills. Surround yourself with
people who are winners and will encourage you. Many successful people accomplish
their goals even though in the beginning they didn't know everything needed to
succeed. They believed that they could do it and they did. When you get stuck or
have doubts push yourself to do it anyway one step at a time. Get a support partner
who is willing to be there for you when you have doubts.

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4 Ways to Change Your Life and Your Business

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You have heard the old saying, “The more you do of what you are doing, the more you will get of what you’ve got.”

Your goal should be to make the current year the most productive and highest paid year so far, until the next year comes along. To achieve this goal, you are going to have to do something different from what you are doing today.

There are only four ways that you can change your life and your business. Here they are:

1. You can do more of certain things. What are the things that you should do more of? Obviously you should do more of the things that are working the very best for you already.

You should use more of the marketing and sales methods that are getting you face to face with the best customers, the ones that buy the most readily and who most appreciate the special features and benefits of your products and services.

It is amazing how many sales people lose track of their most effective selling methods, including networking on a regular basis with other sales professionals in your area, and start off doing something new, different and unproven. Then they are surprised when their sales drop and their income declines. Sometimes, the very best thing you can do is to get back to doing what is already working the very best for you.

2. You can do less of other things. Many people fall into a comfort zone of doing things that are not working particularly well, but because they are comfortable doing them, they continue doing them nonetheless.

You only have so many minutes and hours each day. If you spend your time doing things of low value, that time is no longer available to you to do things of higher value. You must be continually thinking about the value of your time, every minute of every day. You should do less and less of those things that are giving you few results, so that you have more time to do more of those things that are giving you better results.

The Power of Positive Self-Talk

by Brian Tracy

Perhaps the most powerful influence on your attitude and personality is what you say to yourself, and believe. It is not what happens to you, but how you respond internally to what happens to you, that determines your thoughts and felling and, ultimately, your actions. By controlling your inner dialogue, or “self-talk,” you can begin to assert control over every other dimension of your life.

Your self-talk, the words that you use to describe what is happening to you, and to discuss how you feel about external events, determines the quality and tone of your emotional life. When you see things positively and constructively and look for the good in each situation and each person, you have a tendency to remain naturally positive and optimistic. Since the quality of your life is determined by how you feel, moment to moment, one of your most important goals should be to use every psychological technique available to keep yourself thinking about what you want and to keep your mind off of what you don’t want, or what you fear.

Arnold Toynbee, the historian, developed what he called the “challenge-response theory” of history. In studying the rise and fall of 20 major world civilizations, Toynbee concluded that each civilization started out as a small group of people – as a village, as a tribe or in the case of the Mongol empire, as just three people who had survived the destruction of their small community. Toynbee concluded that each of these small groups faced external challenges, such as hostile tribes. In order to survive, much less thrive, these small groups had to reorganize themselves to deal positively and constructively with these challenges.

By meeting each of these challenges successfully, the village or tribe would grow. Even greater challenges would be triggered as a result. And if this group of people continued to meet each challenge by drawing upon its resources and winning out, it would continue to grow until ultimately it became a nation-state and then a civilization covering a large geographical area.

Toynbee looked at the 21 great civilizations of human history, ending with the American civilization, and concluded that these civilizations began to decline and fall apart when their citizens and leaders lost the will or ability to rise to the inevitable external challenges occasioned by their very size and power.

Toynbee’s theory of civilizations can be applicable to our life as well.

You are continually faced with challenges and difficulties, with problems and disappointments, with temporary setbacks and defeats. They are an unavoidable and inevitable part of being human. But, as you draw upon your resources to respond effectively to each challenge, you grow and become a stronger and better person. In fact, without those setbacks, you could not have learned what you needed to know and developed the qualities of your character to where they are today.

Much of your ability to succeed comes from the way you deal with life. One of the characteristics of superior men and women is that they recognize the inevitability of temporary disappointments and defeats, and they accept them as a normal and natural part of life. They do everything possible to avoid problems, but when problems come, superior people learn from them, rise above the, and continue onward in the direction of their dreams.

Dr. Martin Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania has written a fascinating book based on his 25 years of research into this subject. It’s titled Learned Optimism. In this book, Dr. Seligman explains the basic response patterns of both positive and negative people. As a result of his many years of work in cognitive therapy, and the use of exhaustive testing, he finds, quite simply, that optimistic people tend to interpret events in such a way that they keep their minds positive and their emotions under control.

Optimists develop the habit of talking to themselves in constructive ways. Whenever they experience an adversity, they immediately describe it to themselves in such a way that it loses its ability to trigger negative emotions and feelings of helplessness.

Dr. Seligman says that are three basic differences in the reactions of optimists and pessimists. The first difference is that the optimist sees a setback as temporary, while the pessimist sees it as permanent. The optimist sees an unfortunate event, such as an order that falls through or a sales call that fails, as a temporary event, something that is limited in time and that has no real impact on the future. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees negative events as permanent, as part of life and destiny.

For example, let’s say that the optimistic salesperson makes 10 calls on likely prospects, and every one of those calls is unsuccessful. The optimist simply interprets this as a temporary event and a matter of averages or probabilities. The optimist concludes that, with every temporary failure, he is moving closer to the prospect who will turn into a sale. The optimist dismisses the event and goes on cheerfully to the 11th and 12th prospects.

The pessimist sees the same situation differently. The pessimist has a tendency to conclude that 10 unsuccessful sales calls is an indication that the economy is terrible and that there is no market for his product. The pessimist generalizes and begins to see the situation and his career as hopeless. While the optimist just shrugs it off and gets on with the next call, the pessimist becomes discouraged and loses heart and enthusiasm for the hard work of prospecting.

The second difference between the optimist and the pessimist is that the optimist sees difficulties as specific, while the pessimist sees them as pervasive. This means that when things go wrong for the optimist, he looks at the event as an isolated incident largely disconnected from other things that are going on in his life.

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Transforming Bad Habits

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by Brian Tracy 
Your habits have been developed from early childhood as the result of things that you have chosen to do, or not to do. Your entire life is the result of your past choices and decisions. And like all of us, you probably have some bad habits that have held you back from your true potential. But here’s the good news: Since you are always free to choose, you can make new choices and decisions today that will determine what happens to you in the future.

One of your main objectives in life is to develop new habits and make them your masters, while at the same time overriding and setting aside old habits that may be interfering with your progress. You have two major types of habits. You have habits that revolve around your desires and you have habits that revolve around your fears. The habits that revolve around your desires for health, happiness, financial independence, and success are life-enhancing. They are the habits that have brought you the success you enjoy today. The habits that revolve around your fears, on the other hand, act as brakes on your potential. They hold you back. They interfere with your success. They trip you up on a regular basis. They cause you to sell yourself short and settle for far less than your potential.

Dr. Martin Seligman, in his book, Learned Optimism, wrote about the chief psychological phenomenon of modern life. He called it “learned helplessness.” Based on his 25 years of research, he discovered that virtually every person has one or more areas where they feel helpless and unable to do something that they really want to do.

Seligman’s research demonstrated how animals can be trained to feel that they are helpless. In one example, he put a dog into a cage with a glass wall in the middle that separated the dog from a bowl of food. The dog was hungry and tried to get at the food but kept banging his nose on the glass. After several hours, Seligman removed the glass. And what happened then? The dog, who was still hungry, sat only a few inches away from the food and never even attempted to eat it. The dog had learned to feel helpless. The had become so convinced that he was incapable of getting to the food that even when the obstacles were removed, he just sat there with his stomach growling.

There are dozens of experiments like this. In every case, it is clear that animals, and human beings for that matter, learn to feel helpless. They develop habits of thought that hold them back from reaching their full potential.

If someone were to tell you that you could learn to type 30, 40, or 50 words per minute by taking a typing course and practicing an hour each day for the next few months, you would shrug your shoulders and say, “Of course!” Everybody knows that you can acquire a particular physical skill by learning how it is done and then repeating it over and over again until it becomes automatic.

But when it comes to mental habit patterns, most people are a little baffled. They don’t realize that you can learn mental habit patterns by following exactly the same process that you would use to learn physical habit patterns. And mental habit patterns will have a far greater impact on your life and happiness than any physical habit pattern ever could.

Once you have recognized the old, negative habit patterns that do not serve your purposes, you can determine what new habit patterns you would like to adopt. Begin this process by looking around and determining the people that you admire the most, both living and dead. Ask yourself: What qualities do they have? Which of their characteristics do you most wish to have for yourself? Then make a plan to incorporate those ideal habits into your own character and personality.

You know that you can shape a piece of clay into any desired form. You can also shape your own character and personality by simply deciding to do so. I won’t say that it is easy. Changing your beliefs and attitudes about yourself is one of the most difficult undertakings you will ever face. But it is definitely possible and achievable if you dedicate the necessary time and effort.

How long does it take to develop a new habit pattern? It depends on how complex the habit pattern is. You can develop a simple habit pattern in 14 to 21 days. For example, if you want to begin getting up half an hour earlier so that you can plan and organize your day, it might take just two to three weeks to develop the habit. If you want to develop a new habit pattern of behavior that does deeper into your character, it might take several months or even a year or more. The most important point is that, no matter how long it takes, the end result is achievable if you are really determined.

The habits of success have been studied by the great thinkers and philosophers for at least 2,500 years. After personally studying the subject for more than 30 years, I have found that the very best people have the very best habits. Based on these findings, I have identified seven habits that you need to develop if you want to perform at your very maximum in everything you do.

The first is goal orientation. You need to become a habitual goal setter, and dedicate yourself to working from clear, written goals every day of your life.

The second habit you need to develop for success is result orientation. Result orientation is made up of two practices. The first is the practice of continuously learning so that you become better at what you do. The second practice is that of time management, which means setting very clear priorities on what you do and then concentrating single-mindedly on the most valuable use of your time.

The third major habit you need to develop is that of action orientation. This is really the most important habit for material success. It is the ability to get on with the job and get it done fast. Fast tempo in whatever you do is essential to your success. You need to overcome procrastination, push aside your fears and launch 100% toward the achievement of your most important goals. The fourth habit you need is people orientation. This is your decision to cultivate within yourself the habits of patience, kindness, compassion, and understanding. Virtually all of your happiness in life will come from your ability to get along well with other people. And getting along well with other people is based on a set of habits that you have learned, or failed to learn, from childhood. But it is never too late to become a wonderful human being in your relationships with other. The more you practice being a truly excellent person in your relationship with others, the more you will internalize those qualities and actually become that person.

The fifth habit you need for great success is health orientation. This means that you must make a conscious effort to eat the right foods in the right proportions. You must exercise on a regular basis, continually using every muscle and joint of your body to keep it young and fit. And finally, you must have regular habits of rest and recreation that will enable you, in combination with diet and exercise, to live a long, full life. Remember, your health is the single most important thing you have, and it is completely dependent upon the habits you develop with regard to the way you live.

The sixth habit is an orientation toward honesty and integrity. In the final analysis, the character you develop as you go through life is more important than virtually anything else. Honesty means that you practice the “reality principle” in everything you do. You are completely objective with yourself and with the world around you. You set very clear values for yourself and you organize your life around your values. You develop a vision for yourself and then you life your life consistent with your highest ideals. You never compromise your integrity or peace of mind for anyone or anything. This attitude of honesty will enable you to enjoy all of the other success habits that you are developing.

The seventh habit, the one habit that guarantees all the others, is that of self-discipline. Your ability to discipline yourself, to master yourself, to control yourself, goes hand in hand with success in every area of life.

My favorite definition of self-discipline comes from Elbert Hubbard. He said, “Self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do, when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not.” Every one of these habits, goal orientation, result orientation, action orientation, people orientation, health orientation, honesty, and self-discipline¾can be developed. The following is a seven step method you can use to internalize any habit or group of habits that you want to make a permanent part of your character and personality.

1. Decide clearly on the new habit. Write it down as a goal in the form of a present tense, personal, positive affirmation. For example, if you want to develop the habit of self-discipline, you write, “I am an extremely well-disciplined individual in everything I do.”

2. Repeat your affirmation as often as possible, and with as much enthusiasm and conviction as possible. The more times you repeat this command, the more likely it is that your subconscious mind will ultimately accept it and begin to adjust your thoughts, words, and behaviors to be consistent with it.

3. Visualize yourself as if you already had the new habit pattern. Imagine yourself as already being exactly the person that you want to become in the future. Remember, your subconscious mind is activated and programmed by mental pictures. All improvement in your life and character begin with an improvement in your mental pictures. Use visualization on a regular basis in conjunction with your positive affirmations.

A Balanced Life

by brian tracy
 According to psychologist Sidney Jourard, fully 85 percent of your happiness in life will come from your personal relationships. Your interactions and the time that you spend with the people you care about will be the major source of the pleasure, enjoyment and satisfaction that you derive daily. The other 15 percent of your happiness will come from your accomplishments. Unfortunately, many people lose sight of what is truly important, and they allow the tail to wag the dog. They sacrifice their relationships, their major source of happiness, to accomplish more in their careers. But one’s career, at best, can be only a minor source and a temporary one, at that of the happiness and satisfaction that everyone wants.

There is no perfect answer to the key question of how to achieve balance in our lives, but there are a number of ideas that can help you to be and have and do more in the areas that are important to you. These ideas often require changes and modifications in the way you think and use your time, but the price is well worth it. You will find that by reorganizing your life in little ways, you can create an existence that gives you the highest quality and quantity of satisfaction overall. And this must be your guiding purpose. The ancient Greeks had two famous sayings: “Man, know thyself” and “Moderation in all things.” Taken together, those two ideas are a good starting point for achieving the balance that you desire. With regard to knowing thyself, it is very important to give some serious thought to what you really value in life. All trade-offs and choices are based on your values, and all stress and unhappiness come from believing and valuing one thing and, yet, finding yourself doing another. Only when your values and your activities are congruent do you feel happy and at peace with yourself.

So knowing yourself means knowing what you really value, knowing what is really important to you. The superior man or woman decides what is right before he or she decides what is possible. The advanced human being organizes his or her life to assure that everything that he or she is doing is consistent with his or her true values. It is essential for you to organize your life around yourself, rather than to organize yourself around the demands of your external world.

The second quote, “Moderation in all things,” is a wonderful and important dictate for successful living. But, at the same time, you know that you can’t really be successful in any area by being moderate in that area. Peter Drucker once wrote, “Wherever you find something getting done, you find a monomaniac with a mission.” You know that single-minded concentration on a goal or objective is absolutely necessary for achievement of any kind in a competitive society.

So what’s the solution? Over the years, I have worked with tens of thousands of men and women who have spent a lot of time and effort struggling to achieve balance in their lives. I have found that there is a simple formula; it is simple in that it is easy to explain, but you need tremendous self-discipline and persistence to implement it in your life.

The formula revolves around a concept of time management, or what you might want to call life management. Time management is really a form of personal management in which you organize your 24 hours a day in such a way that they give you the greatest possible return of happiness and contentment.

The key to time management, after you have determined your values and the goals that are in harmony with those values, is to set both priorities and posteriorities. The importance of setting priorities is obvious. You make a list of all the things that you can possibly do and then select from that list the things that are most important to you based on everything you know about yourself, about others and about your responsibilities. The setting of posteriorities is often overlooked. It is when you carefully decide which things you are going to stop doing so that you will have enough time to start doing something else.

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The 11 Keys to Success

By Julie Jansen,

Author of “I Don’t Know What I Want, But I Know It’s Not This”

In his best-selling book “Emotional Intelligence,” Daniel Goleman writes, “There are widespread exceptions to the rule that IQ predicts success … at best, IQ contributes about 20 percent to the factors that determine life success, which leaves 80 percent to other forces.”

Goleman goes on to explain, “These other characteristics are called emotional intelligence: abilities such as being able to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations; to control impulse and delay gratification; to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think; to empathize and to hope.”

This book is full of assessments, tools, resources and how-tos to help guide you in finding new work that will better meet your personal and financial needs. No matter which category you fit in, however, unless you are able to demonstrate and master a specific set of life skills and traits, you will find it difficult to find the work you want.

Observing people in the workplace has yielded 11 keys to success. Time and again, it is apparent that those individuals who exhibit these 11 keys and use them most productively are consistently the most successful and well-liked individuals overall. The good news is that most people are born with at least some of these keys or learned them at a very young age, and all of these keys can be developed or learned later in life.

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10 lessons from Tony Robbins

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Tony Robbins has been an inspiration for millions. Here are 10 lessons from Tony Robbins:

1) By altering your body's physiology,
you can achieve an immediate change of your emotional state. The mind will follow whatever state your phsyical body is in and not vice-versa.
2) Ask specific questions of yourself
(in your self-talk) to direct and control your attention to the various aspects of the human experience. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the questions you ask of yourself.
3) Get leverage to create personal change
by associating an old behavior with massive pain and the desired new behavior with massive pleasure. Tony is a big believer in the pain/pleasure principles of life and this applies in business as well.
4) When you get stuck, interupt your limiting pattern
by doing something totally unexpected.
5) You can condition your behavior by visualizing it over and over again.
This is not exactly unique to Tony Robbins, but he does reinforce this message in all of his products.
6) Goal-setting strategy:
Know your end outcome; Take massive intelligent action; Have sensory-acuity to notice if you are getting the results you desire and if not; change your approach; and change *until* you get your end outcome.
7) Create a "Compelling future"
by vividly imagining your end result to generate enthusiasm and power within yourself. The past does not equal the future. Find beliefs that support your goals and desires.
8) Youth is Power!
This is one of Tony's beliefs. Even if you don't have fancy degrees, your youth can still mean power, flexibility and opportunity for your life.
9) Principles of CANI!
CANI stands for Constant And Never-ending Improvement. It's a basic tenet of Tony Robbins.

10) NLP can be useful. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and there are many NLP undertones in Tony's basic tenets. He went on to morph NLP into his own technology called "NAC" (Neuro Associative Conditioning).

How To Become A More Creative Person

Being creative is all about coming up with new ideas and new ways of doing things.

Being creative can help you to improve your relationships with other people by doing things with them they haven’t done before, it can help you to produce better work that people find interesting, and it can even help you to make money by coming up with new ideas or products which satisfy consumer needs that were previously left unsatisfied.

In fact, virtually all the popular singers, actors and business companies you read and hear about in the media, owe their success and fame largely to creativity.

They did things differently, and as a result, people took note of them and began to follow them. In this section you will learn exactly what creativity is, and how you can unlock your creative potential.
   

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Developing Intelligence

The subject of intelligence is truly a fascinating one, but is something that tends to be misunderstood by most people.

For example, at school we are taught that a person’s intelligence is defined by their test scores. If you get a grade A, you are viewed as being highly intelligent, if you get a grade F, you are seen as being less intelligent.

Whilst test scores certainly can help to give an indication as to the level of intelligence a person possesses, it is important to understand that such scores only indicate one type of intelligence.

A famous psychologist called Howard Gardner proposed that there are in fact many different types of intelligence. These can range from traditional types, such as mathematical intelligence, to less traditional types, such as musical or athletic intelligence.

One intelligence is not necessarily better than another, as providing you do something which you are naturally intelligent at, you have just as much chance at being successful in life as people with other forms of intelligence.

                                                              

                                                           

Articles On Success

Everyone wants to be successful in life, yet the truth is, very few people become truly successful at what they do.

One of the most common reasons for a lack of success, is not being clear about exactly what you would like to do, have and achieve.

Without a specific target to aim for, you can end up settling for far less than you originally intended for because you weren’t really sure what you were trying to obtain in the first place.

Another common reason for a lack of success in life, is giving up too soon. In today’s society people have been conditioned to expect immediate gratification, and if they don’t get what they want quickly, most people will become discouraged, disinterested and eventually give up on their goals.

This section covers the topic of success, and introduces you to some very simple yet important principles, that if followed, will help you to bring greater success into your life.






 

"نوروز مبارک1390" happy new year for iranian2011

Nowrūz (Persian: نوروز, IPA: [nouˈɾuːz], "New Day", originally "New Light") is the name of the New Year by Solar calendar and the corresponding traditional celebrations. Nowruz is also widely referred to as the Persian New Year.




Nowruz is celebrated and observed by Iranian peoples and the related cultural continent and has spread in many other parts of the world, including parts of Central Asia, South Asia, Northwestern China, the Crimea and some groups in the Balkans.




Nowruz marks the first day of spring and the beginning of the year in Iranian calendar. It is celebrated on the day of the astronomical vernal equinox, which usually occurs on March 21 or the previous/following day depending on where it is observed. As well as being a Zoroastrian holiday and having significance amongst the Zoroastrian ancestors of modern Iranians, the same time is celebrated in parts of the South Asian sub-continent as the new year. The moment the Sun crosses the celestial equator and equalizes night and day is calculated exactly every year and Iranian families gather together to observe the rituals.

Originally being a Zoroastrian festival, and the holiest of them all, Nowruz is believed to have been invented by Zoroaster himself, although there is no clear date of origin. Since the Achaemenid era the official year has begun with the New Day when the Sun leaves the zodiac of Pisces and enters the zodiacal sign of Aries, signifying the Spring Equinox.


The Jewish festival of Purim is probably adopted from the Persian New Year. It is also a holy day for Sufis, Ismailis, Alawites, Alevis, and adherents of the Bahá'í Faith.


The term Nowruz in writing, first appeared in Persian records in the 2nd century AD, but it was also an important day during the time of the Achaemenids (c. 648-330 BC), where kings from different nations under the Persian empire used to bring gifts to the Emperor, also called King of Kings (Shahanshah), of Persia on Nowruz. The significance of Nowruz in the Achaemenid empire was such that the great Persian king Cambyses II's appointing as the king of Babylon was legitimized only after his participation in the New Year festival (Nowruz).


The UN's General Assembly in 2010 recognized the International Day of Nowruz, describing it a spring festival of Persian origin which has been celebrated for over 3,000 years.[12][13] During the meeting of The Inter-governmental Committee for the Safeguarding of the Intangible Heritage of the United Nations, held between 28 September – 2 October 2009 in Abu Dhabi, Nowrūz was officially registered on the UNESCO List of the Intangible Cultural Heritage of Humanity

success secrets & skills

Success is something that everyone wants to achieve more of. They may for example, want to become more successful in their financial life, their personal life or in their relationships with others.

However it is you define success, it is important that you take the time to think about exactly what you want to achieve in life and then to plan out a course of action that will help you to reach those goals.

People who fail to do this will invariably fail to achieve any meaningful or lasting success in their life, because without a destination to aim for and a map to guide you there, you will never end up going anywhere or achieving very much.

When this happens a person may start to view their life or themselves as being a failure, which in turn can lead to low levels of self esteem, low self confidence and sometimes even depression.

Unfortunately, such a state of mind is not conducive to the achievement of success, and so usually only brings that person more failure in life making them feel worse with each passing day.

BEST PRACTICE BRIEF: Twitter Cheat

 BEST PRACTICE BRIEF: Twitter Cheat 

Twitter is still a relatively new medium in the marketing world, but is growing by leaps and
bounds – daily! Learn what works and what doesn’t with these simple tips to help you develop
an effective Twitter program.
1. Be consistent. Twitter is new and cool, but you should still treat it like your other marketing
tools. As with other campaigns, goals and standards need to be developed and messaging
should be consistent from medium to medium.
2. Stay true to your branding. Trying to develop a new “voice” to fit in is likely to backfire.
Remain true to your brand voice and messaging.
3. Set clear expectations for your team. Before implementing a Twitter campaign and presence
make sure that each individual on the team understands the goals of the program. Be
clear as to who is supposed to respond and within what time frame.
4. Leverage best practices. Leverage existing best practices from Customer Service and internal
Communications and retrofit them for Twitter.
5. Understand the power of a mention. Each mention can represent thousands – even millions
of listeners. Take them seriously.
6. Be concise. A tweet is limited to 140 characters so you need to make each character count
and get the most pertinent information to your following.
7. Schedule is important. Knowing your objectives will assist you in developing a schedule
for tweeting. If you are using Twitter for customer service, you will tweet as often as there
are customer inquiries. If is for awareness and traffic driving, you may only tweet as there
is news on your business. That does not however mean that you can get lazy. Frequency is
important to keeping the attention of your followers.
8. Think beyond marketing. Companies are beginning to use Twitter as a customer service
tool that allows customers to quickly contact the company to resolve problems. ComcastCares
is perhaps one of the best examples with 49,734 followers as of January 2011.
(http://twitter.com/comcastcares) It’s a great tool but (and this is a big “but”) only if the
company follows and responds to tweets on a very timely basis.
9. Don’t forget to measure. While tweeting is useless if you are not actively tracking and
measuring its benefit. Whether you leverage social monitoring tools to get a full run of
conversations or use the Twitter interface, make sure you know how the social network is
responding to your business.

Positive Psychology in Your Relationships

  3  wrong ways -- and 1 right way -- to respond to good news from your spouse

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Close relationships is one area of life where using positive psychology can make a big difference.

According to Shelly Gable, associate professor of psychology at the University of California-Santa Barbara, an important key to understanding a relationship's strength is how it works in good times, not just whether it withstands the bad.

Gable has been researching what goes right in close relationships for years.

By studying hundreds of couples, she's found that when romantic partners disclose positive news, how the other reacts matters -- a lot. In fact, partners' reactions to each other's good news can better predict the quality of a relationship--and whether it will endure -- than can partners' reactions to bad news, says Gable.

"Reacting in a positive way not only reinforces bonds, but it also shows that person that in negative times you'll be there," says Gable.

Positive reactions also magnify the uplifting effects of the good news for the partner who's doing the sharing, she notes. A negative or semi-positive response to a partner's good news, however, can undercut all the benefits derived from disclosing in the first place, such as fostering trust, intimacy, and satisfaction with the relationship, she says.

Surprisingly, Gable has found that out of four possible ways to respond to a partner's positive news, only one -- an "active constructive response" -- is good

Couples whose partners respond in any of three less positive ways are at greater risk of calling it quits down the line.

Consider the following example she often gives to illustrate:

Your significant other comes home, beaming, and announces that he just got a great promotion at work. You could react with:

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Who Are You? And What do You Think of Me?

How to make sense of a new hire, a touchy stranger, a potential lover, and other perplexing encounters.

The New Hire: What Do I Need to Know About This Job Candidate—and How Can I Find It Out?

Every Sunday, America's corporate titans share their hiring strategies with The New York Times. "I have a very good antenna about people," Starbucks founder Howard Schultz told the "Corner Office" column. "First off, I want to know what you're reading and then I'll ask you why. Tell me what work-life balance means to you."

Abbe Raven, CEO of A&E Television Network, privileges her "gut reaction." "Number 1, for me, is instinct. It's all about who they are as a person, their chemistry, their charisma, and their gravitas."

The problem with such freewheeling approaches is that qualities like charisma and compassion are faked in job interviews as much as 90 percent of the time, according to one landmark study. Relying on first impressions and stated values is the hiring equivalent of shacking up with your neighbor after a quick curbside chat. Even if your impression is accurate, there's little correlation between personality and job performance. For these reasons, psychologists who study job interviews recommend homing in on aptitude and skills specific to the job

La psychologie du bonheur

Par Katia Mayrand , journaliste , Montréal, Canada

  

Est-il possible de mesurer le bonheur? Alors que, traditionnellement, la psychologie s'est penchée sur les troubles mentaux et les problèmes que vivent les être humains, la psychologie positive s'intéresse aux gens heureux. La recette du bonheur existerait-elle?


La psychologie positive est une branche de la psychologie cognitive basée sur des fondements humanistes. Elle a pris naissance à la fin des années 1990, avec le psychologue et professeur Martin Seligman, qui a mis sur pied le Positive Psychology Center, à l'Université de Pennsylvanie.

Il y a 10 ans encore, 90 % des articles scientifiques en psychologie étaient consacrés aux problèmes des individus et le but principal était d'aider une personne à passer de -5 à 0 sur une échelle de satisfaction (bien-être). L'arrivée de la psychologie positive permet à chacun de passer de 0 à 5 sur la même échelle, en mettant l'accent, non sur ce qui va mal dans sa vie, mais sur ce qui va bien, et de miser plutôt sur ses forces que sur ses faiblesses.

Les six traits positifs de l'être humain

Le Character Strengths and Virtues. A Handbook and Classification, de Peterson et Seligman (2004) a dressé la liste des six traits (ou caractéristiques) positifs de l'être humain. Ces traits favoriseraient le bonheur et le bien-être. Quels sont-ils?

• La sagesse et la connaissance, incluant la curiosité, la créativité et l'ouverture d'esprit.

• Le courage, qui comprend la persévérance, l'authenticité et l'enthousiasme.

• L'humanité, qui inclut l'amour, l'intelligence émotionnelle et la bienveillance.

• La justice, y compris la responsabilité sociale et le leadership.

• La tempérance: ce sont les forces qui protègent contre les excès. Incluant la prudence, l'humilité et le pardon.

• La transcendance: savoir apprécier la beauté, avoir de l'espoir, de la gratitude, de l'humour et une vie spirituelle.

Les 5 clés du bonheur

  Les 5 clés du bonheur
Le bonheur ne s’achète pas chez un concessionnaire, mais se cultive plutôt comme un jardin. Certains lui courent après, d’autres le savourent, mais tous nous y aspirons. Pour vous aider dans cette quête, des spécialistes vous proposent cinq pistes…

  

 
Le bonheur est dans le pré, pour les uns. Pour d’autres, il est dans les bras de l’être aimé, ou au détour d’une galerie d’art. Chacun le sien, donc, et tout le monde y a droit ! Parfois, il est à portée de mains, souvent on passe à côté. Disposition de l’esprit ou don du ciel ? Peu importe ! L’important est de le cultiver. Il existe plusieurs pistes, toutes reposent sur des attitudes et une pratique au quotidien. Alors suivez nos conseils…

 
 1 - Retrouvez l’estime de soi
 
Certaines personnes ont le don de se dévaloriser, d’autres savent qu’elles sont un cadeau au monde. La différence entre les 2 ? L’estime de soi ! C’est un gage de bonheur, une dimension de votre personnalité qui a besoin d’être alimentée. Une personne qui a une haute estime d’elle-même, se traite en diva, "elle prend la responsabilité de sa vie, et donc de son bonheur, sans blâmer les autres", explique le psychiatre Christophe André. Celle qui en a peu ne s’apprécie jamais assez et rencontre d’innombrables difficultés. Pour la cultiver, commencez par dérouler le film de vos succès. En fin de journée, vous avez pris l’habitude de vous souvenir des mauvaises nouvelles : ce dossier est inextricable, il a plu tout le week-end. Pensez plutôt en positif : une petite victoire au boulot, un compliment de votre amoureux... et c’est bien agréable.


2 - Cultivez de bonnes relations avec les autres 

Le bonheur ? Bichonner ses amis. "En contrepoint à l’ego attitude, penser aux autres est important pour être heureux" affirme Albert Ellis, fondateur de l’approche émotivo-rationnelle. Son conseil : ne cherchez pas à vous sentir systématiquement aimé ou accepté par votre entourage. Faites de l’approbation des autres un objectif souhaitable, mais non indispensable. Au lieu d’attendre des autres, soyez prêt à donner. N’hésitez pas à rendre service ou à multiplier les occasions de faire la fête. Invitez vos voisins à dîner ou organisez des brunchs avec vos amis, le dimanche. Ça demande bien moins de temps et de moyens qu’on l’imagine.





3 - Donnez-vous des petits plaisirs

Et si le bonheur de vivre, était une suite de petits bonheurs ? Les petits plaisirs mettent le moral au beau fixe... une pause café avec un collègue qu’on aime bien, un rayon de soleil au coeur de l’hiver… Le bonheur, c’est comme la santé, ça s’entretient tous les jours. Faites-vous du bien, et surtout éviter de multiplier les corvées, les vitres, les comptes, les courses à Carrefour. Vous pouvez aussi penser en terme de récompenses, de bénéfices personnels. "Si je décroche ce budget, je m’offre un week-end en amoureux" ! Prenez le parti de la gaieté : la joie augmente le taux d’endorphine, ces hormones relaxantes, molécules du bonheur.
 

4Faites la paix avec votre passé

De vieilles rancunes au sujet d’un ex, une histoire familiale difficile... il arrive que les souvenirs soient parfois encombrants. Pour gagner en légèreté et donc en capital bonheur faire la paix avec son passé est souvent une nécessité. Il suffit parfois d’en parler. C’est souvent plus facile, avec une amie, même si l’objet de la discorde est sensible. Dans le cadre du couple ou de la famille, c’est parfois plus délicat. Le travail de deuil ou de pardon ne se fait pas tout seul, l’accepter est déjà un pas vers la résolution du problème. Aujourd’hui consulter un psy est devenu courant

Pour comprendre, mettre à jour et s’en délivrer, consulter un professionnel est parfois la bonne solution. Surtout si vos angoisses, ou un certain mal-être, deviennent un obstacle à votre bonheur. Faire la paix avec son passé est aussi un signe de maturité



5Développez votre créativité

Combattre la routine, s’ouvrir à l’inconnu... Et si on essayait la créativité, un des piliers du bonheur ! D’après Christian Boiron, philosophe, pour explorer, exprimer sa personnalité et être heureux, cette qualité est essentielle. Votre matière première : la curiosité ! Autorisez-vous les erreurs, les tâtonnements... dans de nombreux domaines. Tout le monde peut s’y mettre ! Dans la cuisine, par exemple. Que ce soit pour un dîner en amoureux, ou un goûter d’enfants, amusez-vous et inventez. L’écriture, aussi est agréable. Imaginez des personnages de roman en regardant les gens de votre entourage (façon, Le Fabuleux destin d’Amélie Poulain). Ou préparez un voyage, sans forcément avoir recours à des agences.